Why is the culture I know over committed? (Why am I over committed?) Is it true, as the great thinkers have said, that you are your commitments? Why are plans made to hang out only semi-plans?  Why do I find myself afraid to commit to something that isn’t perfect? What does it mean to be committed? Studies of the leaders in music, business, sports etc. show that focusing  on [committing to?] one skill is the way to become a master. And then there’s the idea that when you commit to see something to the end, solutions pop up, and it is easier to work through problems. And why is it that a wise man swears to his own harm and doesn’t change? Why is the wording “commit a sin?”

 These have been my subconscious hum of the week. Commitment at the small and mid-scale level.  But then, maybe I’m thinking of large commitments as small ones. Proverbs warns to be very choosy about friends.

I don’t know of anything to read on these questions, but I have the book “Committed” by the author who wrote “Eat, Pray, Love” <-she’s HILARIOUS! It’s about the biggest commitment… marriage, so a relative key if you will. She makes a good point that we (in this culture) put a LOT of pressure on our soul mate. I wonder if that’s related to unhealthy or non-commitments elsewhere.

So far, my favorite idea from the book is in the introduction. She was explaining the pressure of writing after her successful book. People were expecting another phenom, and she was trying to please them… writing for 1,000,000. And she found that that was too ambiguous and the entire rough draft written with her large public in mind wasn’t worth publishing… so she wrote another draft, this time “to” the closest women in her life. Of course, that’s the one that is amazing and (after some edits) was published. Again, I wonder if trying to please the masses is related to deciding in our heart that each one of them needs to be pleased…. Commitment.


thoughts and wisdom welcome 🙂


a re-post of a working discipline model

Kennifer Jelly described a blog as a pintrest for words. I like that. Here’s a pin of a simplified case study of the effects of teachers caring.

The stats from before and after implementing this approach are amazing. And, participants said the school started to feel like a family. (Another needed thing in our society.) The goal of having teachers interact in a more positive way sounds paralell to the “encouraging grandmothers” mentioned in the TED talk on the future of learning. 

I also like seeing how the culture of the school is affected by the people in charge.



Question: Is there is a pretty way to imbed a link on wordpress?


Et voila! … une blogue!

Sometimes I have an urge to highlight a semi-paralell, or laugh at a contradiction, or ponder a foundational belief, or share an idea prompted by a recent reading, or pose a question. This blog is for that. Coming up with a name that got that point across was a challenge. After one and a half months of pondering, and many clicks to the electronic thesaurus, this one made sense. Outre is French (of course) for being beyond and is commonly used to describe art that challenges. That is what I want this to be.

Welcome to my thoughts.